Monday, December 8, 2008

You would cry too, if it happened to you

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Oh, look, on the cover of Bad Parenting magazine, it's new-run Elly Patterson!

9 comments:

howard said...

Cry so hard you puke! It's like you had a camera in my house when our first pediatrician suggested using this method with my son to deal with his "early terrible 2's" he had when he was 8 months old. This strip is bringing back memories.

DreadedCandiru2 said...

It's not just Liz that grew up warped because of Elly's failure to parent. Mike wouldn't be the jackass he is if he grew up feeling that he was loved.

April Patterson said...

howtheduck, that's one of the things that I found so astonishing about the standard advice surrounding "cry it out." As I understand it, parents are instructed that during the process, the child may vomit during the crying, and if that happens, the parent is to clean up the vomit calmly, return the child to bed, and leave the room quietly. No "rewarding" the throw-up behavior by reacting emotionally or attempting to comfort the child who was upset enough to barf. Some parenting advice really chills me.

Dreadedcandiru2, there sure is a lot of unintented information to be gleaned from retracing the Patterkids' childhood.

InsertMonikerHere said...

Wow, let the kid vomit is "standard"? I have no kids, but I hear friends & family discuss how to handle their kids. They've heard the "cry it out" advice, but the only stuff they would consider (or that I'd hear considered) wasn't *that* extreme.

April Patterson said...

Wow, let the kid vomit is "standard"?

From what I understand--I think it's presented as "this is something that might happen, and if it does, don't let it trouble you." We never did any CIO at all, and if we'd been so inclined, I think the vomiting thing would have put me off. :(

howard said...

the child may vomit during the crying

Vomit, loosen the bowels, scratch their face up, bang their head repeatedly on the side of the crib. There is a whole litany of things to ignore. I am embarrassed by how long we tried this with my son at the suggestion of our pediatrician and how long it took us to realize we needed to change pediatricians. It was an eye-opening process for us to realize that a doctor trained in treating children could be an idiot.

April Patterson said...

howtheduck, I think this sort of thing happens with many new parents. You're sleep deprived to begin with, and you want to believe that the pediatrician--a supposed medical professional--will not steer you wrong. I'm guessing the new pediatrician was a vast improvement over the old one?

howard said...

Your guess would be correct. The new pediatrician diagnosed our son as having a sensory integration disorder and worked to get the physical therapy paid under our insurance. The old pediatrician kept handing us books on disciplining children and telling us that there was nothing wrong with our boy that good discipline couldn't fix.

April Patterson said...

howtheduck, I can't even imagine what a relief it must have been to find a doctor who was able to identify what was going on and treat it appropriately. I'm glad you did and that things got better.